A Few Thoughts on President Obama's Remarks About Moms Leaving the Workforce

"Sometimes, someone, usually Mom, leaves the workplace to stay home with the kids, which then leaves her earning a lower wage for the rest of her life as a result," he said. That's not a choice we want Americans to make." 

What possible reason could he have for such a statement? 
Would he want to force the millions of mothers who love being home and taking care of their children into the workforce? 

Might it be that the government wants to help moms realize their "full" potential? Or is it that they want more influence over the minds of tomorrow?

I think that what the majority of American families want is just to be left alone to make their own decisions about what is best for their own families. I think that is the point of these statements;
"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.-That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed."
The Declaration of Independence  
July 4, 1776

I am so thankful to have the freedom to stay at home with my family. Living on one income has necessitated many financial sacrifices. Our two, dented, barn-smelling, cars have well over 200,000 miles on them, each. Our vacations mainly entail camping in a state park or nature preserve, and our wardrobe is frequently sourced from thrift stores or generous friends.

However, no amount of money could replace the joy and fulfillment that I have found in taking care of my seven children. Days spent reading aloud together, traipsing through fallen leaves and singing at the top of our lungs, have been so much more fun and rewarding than any occupation I could have dreamed of.
My husband and I have made a choice to invest our time into teaching our children about the wonderful world we live in and the wonderful God who made it. We made a choice to put our resources into raising a new generation of hopeful people.

And that is a choice that this American has been very glad to make.

Some other writers on the subject;
This one

and this awesome post-

and another great one here


  1. Well said!... What a stupid comment by a stupid president.

    1. I try to use kind words here, but it was certainly a comment that was not reflective of many Americans on both sides of the political fence.

  2. Well written! And so sad that our President made remarks like that.

    1. Thanks for reading Charlotte! I hate to highlight peoples blunders, I make plenty myself, but I certainly think being American means having choices, especially in how we raise our children.

  3. Hey there! I am stopping by from our 31Days fb group... I heard this unfortunate quote a couple of days ago and immediately got all riled up, because - of course - and, Hello? I am now an empty nester but we, too, chose to live on one income and make sacrifices and live(d) paycheck to paycheck and yet, thankfully, my husband knew the investment of having me home was worth every penny it was 'costing' us! I do think that this quote pulled out is not fully what he intended to say, but either way it is concerning that the underlying message feels like a slam against choosing to stay home with our kids! I know not everyone can make that choice, but I think more people can who think that they can't! I think we fall for the lies of our culture and living on one income, even if it is a good one, can seem impossible - but I am here to tell you, it is not! And it is well worth the sacrifices!

    1. Thanks so much for stopping by. I believe it is totally up to each family how they want to raise their children, but government should certainly not infringe the right of parents who want to raise their own children. I don't want money for daycare from the government and honestly wish they wouldn't take so much of our money to pay for those choices for other families.

  4. I am not at all a fan of our president for a myriad of reasons, but I think perhaps what he was trying to say (although badly) is that it's not a choice we want Americans to *have* to make. I know that's not what he said, but if you look at this quote in the context of the rest of the speech, it becomes very clear that he's not advocating for all women to shunt their kids off to daycare and stay in the work force outside the home. He's advocating that we have laws in place that allow for things like lower cost quality daycare and preschools for their kids, for paid maternity leave, and for broader laws with regard to family medical leave so that women don't feel like they have to choose to give up their career in order to care for their families. I did a quick Google search and found this link that gives more of the context of the speech, so you can see what I'm talking about.


    I know our President isn't exactly a shining example of goodness and light and I don't trust him any farther than I can throw him, but I think it's important when we hear quotes like these in the media to make sure we understand the context instead of just looking at the quote in isolation. The media loves to take stuff that is badly worded, as this quote is, and spin it in order to make us believe one thing when perhaps something entirely different is meant. The media are kinda manipulative and mean-spirited that way. I know I've definitely fallen for the spin a number of times.

  5. The president's comment makes me so sad. Women's rights means that women get to choose whether they want to pursue a career or stay home. One option is not better than another; each family needs to consider what is best for their own family. For us, that meant I stay home and take care of our daughter. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  6. I am thankful we live in a free country, we too have chosen one income in order for. Me to stay home with the boys. I know not all my friends have been able to have this same gift and opportunity and I am blessed to be a stay at home mom, by choice.